How do I deal with a relative who is a live-in nanny of sorts... (long situational question)?

wow i have never had to deal with this so I'm not sure how to approach this problem. but i would be pretty frustrated as well. i don't personally think that your husband is going to talk to her about this issue. so it might be best if you sit her down and just tell her. this is the only conditions you had for her staying her. but she has to follow your rules for just a few hours while you are at work... period. she needs to be more respectful... living on your computer is not very responsible or respectful. either that or your husband umed she would be a live in nanny but didn't talk to her about it at all until she got here... I'm not sure... it just sounds to me like he is completely siding with her on this issue and that's not right. you are the mother of his child and your child is not being taken care of... if things don't change then tell your husband you are going to need to quit your job or en-roll him in day care because you have worked hard to get your son where he is now and its all going down the drain... this woman's not even his mother... those decisions are not for her to make..